endless definitions

What does it mean to be married?

What are the expectations?

What is the agreement?

One thing I’m learning is how very many ways there are to do anything. Everything. There are so many possibilities. There are so many different kinds of normal.

What it comes down to is each person’s values. What is my true north? What is it that I specifically imagine for my marriage? What is it my partner imagines? What agreement have we made together? Where do grace and compromise come in?

So if there are so many different ways to make something work, if there are endless possibilities for the definition of personal success, then we just have to figure out what feels right and true for us. For our own lives. Without influence from outer pressures or internalized biases.